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Are you dealing with a specific scenario and aren’t sure what to do?
Different situations need different responses.
Here are some options to address your concerns as an UPstander:
I’m concerned about my friend.
- Talk to your friend to see what’s going on.
- Use safe strategies to address their behavior.
- Talk to mutual friends about how to handle racist statements when you see or hear them.
- Speak to a trusted adult if you’re not sure how to talk to your friend about their posts.
- Think about your friend. Are they someone who leans into offensive humor? Are they showing any other signs that worry you?
- Talk to your friend and find out if they are aware that their jokes have hateful undertones.
- Reason with your friend to stop making jokes that could get them into trouble.
- Talk to a trusted adult.
- If you can, support the person who was hurt.
- Follow up with the first person you told. Ask them if they did anything with the information you shared.
- Tell another trusted adult.
- Seek help.
- Follow up with the first person you told. Ask them if they did anything with the information you shared.
- Tell another trusted adult.
- Seek help.
I’m concerned about something I saw online.
- If you know the person, ask them why they posted that content.
- Use safe strategies to address this behavior.
- If you aren’t sure what to do, talk to a trusted adult.
- If you don’t know the person, report the post or account to the social media platform
- Talk to a trusted adult.
- If you know the person, start a conversation to see what’s going on.
- Report and block accounts and posts that are sharing upsetting content.
- Talk to a trusted adult about setting healthy boundaries online.
- Actively seek out positive content that’s more related to your interests.
- Engage with positive content to boost its reach.
- Report the post to the social media platform.
- Support the person who was bullied.
- If you feel safe, say something to the bully.
- If you know this person IRL, include them in activities at school or after school so they feel less alone.
- Follow up with the first person you told. Ask them if they did anything with the information you shared.
- Tell another trusted adult.
- Tell your friends to report hateful posts when they see them.
- Start a conversation with your friend group about which types of posts are ok and which ones you all agree to not share and to block. You have the power to set group norms with your friends online!
I’m concerned about something I heard or saw in person or online.
- Talk to the person to see what’s going on.
- Take actions to interrupt the comments.
- Talk to the people around you.
- Decide not to engage with the person and walk away.
I’m concerned about bullying.
- Try to interrupt the bullying.
- If you feel safe, say something to the bully.
- Support the person who is being bullied.
- Talk to a trusted adult.
- Report the post to the social media platform.
- Support the person who was bullied.
- If you feel safe, say something to the bully.
I’m struggling.
- Talk to a trusted adult like a guidance counselor.
- Talk to a trusted adult like a guidance counselor.
This project is funded by the U.S. Department of Homeland Security's Center for Prevention Programs and Partnerships, opportunity number DHS-23-TTP-132-00-01.
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